I agree, it's much easier to have a poz partner. The person I'm talking to now is negative n they accept me for me. Just wondering how long it's going to last. I don't think it has actually sunk it yet that I'm poz. Happy Thanksgiving all...

I think you are right about that Jeff, even though I just achieved “undetectable” status I couldn’t imagine passing this bundle of joy on to another. My ex seems to have no regard for the devastation I’m sure he is leaving in his wake, his last comment to me was “Do I look sick?” While I wanted to snatch his dang face off I just shook my head, turned, and walked away....and I’m still walking too. Happy Turkey Day my friend💫

dating another poz makes it easier, although like everything, you are still different, the disease, health, progression, etc. It's easier I think because you're both poz, one less worry.

It’s the simple answer. But the heart wants what the hearts wants. It is not always just a Poz on Poz choice. But it is preferable. No threat of broken condoms trauma. The difficulty is the lack of use of condoms completely with multiple partners can spread unwanted STI’. And it’s a personal question. I prefer using condoms until I am exclusive with someone.

It's played out that way for me. Randy and I are both positive (in more ways that one, actually. I think that has something to do with the health of our marriage.) We didn't go looking for that, and, of course, for those for whom it IS an issue that their partner be negative, that becomes our issue, that is if we really want a relationship with THAT person. So maybe it's about deciding not to "want" what might not be available in the first place. "Normal"? I'm not sure what that is. I'm "normal" for me, and that's all that really matters anymore. Happy Thanksgiving to ALL!