When I was 1st diagnosed I decided it would be better to be alone because I had a lot of shame and was afraid of rejection and never wanted to pass it to someone. I was abstinent for almost 10 years. Later on I had casual sex with a couple of people and always told them my status 1st. I call it duty to inform. I did find someone when I least expected it and we are married now. It’s still hard for me and affects our sex life because of the fears I have. There are people out there who will love you regardless and if you want someone to spend your life with, you have to take risks and put yourself out there. We all deserve that someone special. But it’s a choice you have to make. What’s best for you.

I don't fool myself or lie about the fact of my health. Yes I want to be with a woman, just the friendship is a soothing comfort and doing things together, getting to know your spouse is very important that's where honest and trust come in. People who likes and love you except you for who you are. I like getting out going places and getting to know people. Because of this lockdown pandemic. I live alone so this is some lonely crap.

Absolutely. For the many who reject you for having HIV, there are an equal number unpahased or bothered at all. I was surprised at the number of people who were ok with the diagnosis and did not reject dating me.

Yes you can. Most importantly is accepting and finding love within yourself. If you don’t put the work into healing traumas from past relationships, it can affect you later.

Also, don’t close yourself from any dates. Go with an open heart and mind. The person you date may not even be your usual type. If there’s a spark, jump all in.

There is always some degree of hope and success at finding someone who will click with you. If you narrow your choices to only what you are looking for, your chances diminish.