Not that this should be a pissing contest but just once as a bisexual man I’d like our voice heard in the HIV or lgbtq community. Again any suffering is discounted and minimize.
The crap I’ve had to deal with from gay men and lesbian woman. NOT straight people, the community I supposedly belong too. And recently, not the distant past but the crap I’ve had to deal with in HIV support groups in the last 18 months.
Yeah, just Keep suppressing our voices.
I try to stay up and positive on this site but I’m getting sick of this.

I think stigma cuts across all groups.
Fear for disclosure is the reason I'm single

It is not easy at all... It really isn't..

I have seen this from the outside, having been around the gay community for 40+ years. People say they should just choose one or the other. It's not that easy. I have friends who are bi and they have lamented to me before.

Since I identify as a Bisexual male, I do get a lot of negatives based on my orientation. It is definitely more difficult trying to find someone (Male or Female) who will accept me as is with my baggage (children, grandchildren, and HIV)
With most people I encounter it is like an ultimatum "all or nothing" so currently I am ending up with nothing more than a "Wham, Bam, Thank you, Ma'am/Man" hook up that I despise since the other person doesn't want anything to do with "Me" but only my appendage. I am currently searching for companionship close to home and find it most difficult and unfruitful. Some guys I meet think they have to share me with a woman which is completely wrong. Once I meet someone, I am in it for the long haul and I choose only to be with the one and nobody else.
So, right this minute I have started to withdraw into myself because of the futility I am experiencing on my search for a companion/partner.
Being BI with HIV has its own sets of challenges as compared to being Gay/Gay, Straight/Straight, Trans, Lesbian, Etc. However, I know that I am not alone on this lonely journey.
My saving grace is my immediate family and my extended family on this platform. Aloha! John